I'm an accommodating person. I think it's one of my better qualities - I'm always concerned about other people, and want to make other people feel comfortable. Sometimes it's to my own detriment, but I think on the whole other people appreciate it. What can I say - I'm forever the oldest child looking out for everyone else.
Because of this lovely little personality trait, I hate asking for help. I don't like people to feel like they have to say yes to something if they don't actually want to. To get around this, I've come up with a very simple solution that allows me to ask people things, but also gives them an out.
Are you ready? It's pretty simple.
When I ask someone something - even if it's something simple - I'll follow it up with "You can say no." It sounds weird, but it totally works. See, most of the time I have no preference on things anyway. I'm pretty happy to go with the flow. And I want people to know that. It is kind of crazy seeing how people will react to it. Even in simple situations, it works.
Go ahead - give it a try sometime. Or don't, you can say no.