Deciding on the right song for our first dance proved to be one of the hardest parts of the wedding planning process for us. We wanted something that wasn't cheesy or trendy, something that suited us just right. Music played a big part in the wedding for us. Our favours were CD's because in the early days of our relationship, we spent a lot of time trading mixed CD's back and forth. I still listen to the CD's Jagger made me, and every time I do, it brings me right back to those first few months.
Our original plan for the first dance was to do Thriller. Jagger was so excited about the idea of doing the whole Thriller dance. There were only a few problems with this plan - it would have worked better with a group, and we didn't have a wedding party, just a maid of honour and best man. Also, the best man lives about 26 hours away, which makes it kind of hard to practice a whole choreographed routine. Still, it was our top choice until Michael Jackson died in June. Then we decided we couldn't do Thriller because no matter what, it would just look like we were doing it as a tribute to MJ, and not just because we're super awesome.
After that, we really struggled with finding just the right song. Every one we suggested just didn't seem quite right. I wanted to do something quirky and unexpected - like slow dancing, but to a song like "Rock You Like a Hurricane" or to "Tribute" by Tenacious D. Jagger wasn't crazy about either of those ideas.
We went through a slew of other songs, like "I Will Follow You Into the Dark" by Death Cab for Cutie (but determined it to be too sad), "I Want to Know Your Plans" by Say Anything (one of my favourite songs, and although it didn't make it to the first dance, we did dance to it and it is one of my favourite memories from the wedding) and something by Owen, one of our favourite singers. It turns out that Owen had a perfect song, but it was on an album that was released just a week or two before our wedding after we had decided on a song. Jagger made up for it by using some of the lyrics from this song in his wedding speech.
Finally, we hit on just the right song. Ryan Adams' version of Wonderwall. Yes, Wonderwall, the '90s Oasis classic. It's a song we both love and it was in fact a song off one of the CDs that Jagger had made for me. It was on mix #4, my favourite of all the mixes.
It was sweet without being sappy, classic without being expected, and perfectly us.